Megküzdés a gyásszal
Szemlézte: Pöltz Ágnes
2019.10.25. 09:30
Miután Jan Robinson megözvegyült, könyvet írt saját élményeiről, valamint más, partnerüket elveszített özvegyekkel való beszélgetéseinek tanulságairól, hogy ezzel segítse a gyászolókat ebben a nehéz élethelyzetükben.
Jan 18 évesen ismerte meg férjét, Tonyt egy közösségi rendezvényen, szerelmük pedig 46 évig tartó házasságban öltött testet. Tony pár évvel ezelőtt nem várt hirtelenséggel, saját otthonukban hunyt el.
Megözvegyült párja ezt követően elvesztette a kapaszkodókat a mindennapi életben, egy új világban találta magát. Három héttel Tony halála után egy társasági eseményen egy olyan hölgy mellett ült, aki hetven évesen, éppen a harmadik házasságára készült akkoriban. Amikor Jan megtudta, hogy a nő már öt éve özvegy, tanácsot kért tőle, mit is tegyen ebben a helyzetben. Az újdonsült ismerős azt mondta, hogy az első lépés a segítségkérés. Hozzátette, hogy a gyász első évében ne adja el a közös házukat.
Jan megfogadta, hogy ezentúl minden özvegytől megkérdezi, mit is tanácsolna. Voltak, akik egy mondatos válaszokat adtak, mások egy történetet meséltek el, míg olyanok is akadtak, akik gondolkodási időt kértek és e-mailben írták meg javaslatukat. Egy idő után a hasznos tippek olyan gazdag tárházának birtokosának érezte magát, hogy úgy döntött, könyv formájában kell közkinccsé tennie az özvegyek bölcsességeit.
A kötetben szerepelnek olyan humoros tippek, mint hogy "Igyál meg pár pohár bort és hagyd az érzelmeket szabadon áramlani", ám olyan komolyabbak is, mint hogy "A túlzott alkoholfogyasztást mindenképp érdemes kerülni – kérjünk inkább segítséget a háziorvosunktól, ha nehezen állunk meg egy-két pohárnál".
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